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♥ Love resolutions to start the New Year right ♥

2012-01-19T13:47:00.001+08:00

Love GoalsNew Year, new resolutions. Now that 2012 is officially here and we’re getting into that New Year groove, it’s time to make some resolutions where your man is concerned. We want you to make this year your best yet, and we’ve got some simple (yet effective) love tips to get things going.

Don’t take your love for granted

When we’ve known someone for a while, it’s easy to start to take them for granted. We start to blow off plans, thinking our guy will always forgive us; we start to just assume he’ll do that favor for us. You know what we’re talking about. But your man isn’t just a constant fixture in your life that will never change; he’s a human being with feelings and needs, so start to think of him that way. Learn to appreciate your love and the bond you share more by showing him you care in little ways. Send him a sweet text to tell him you appreciate him; bring him coffee out of the blue one day; do anything you can to reignite that spark you once felt.

Make more time for each other

Life is busy; there’s no doubt about it, but we often use the word busy as an excuse. It’s our firm opinion that no one is ever truly too “busy” to make time for those most important to them, so resolve to make more time for your honey this year. You’d feel annoyed and neglected if your sweetie neglected you too often for work or friends, so make an effort to treat your love correctly. Bring your honey to the gym with you for the perfect bonding/multitasking time or carve out 20 minutes every morning to share breakfast together. Whatever you do, just make a little effort to increase the one on one time you spend together.

Love like new

If you feel like you’re just automatically going through the motions with your man and really don’t feel that excitement you once felt, it’s time to spice things up a bit! Love your honey like new this year and make things feel more exciting for the both of you. Dream up some out of the box date night ideas, talk about topics you’ve never broached before and get to know his family and friends a bit more. Doing so will help you feel closer than ever and will prevent any relationship ruts.

by Chrissy Callahan

♥ Long Distance Loyalty ♥

2011-09-05T15:24:00.002+08:00

If you’re feeling lonely in your long distance relationship and trying to resist the urge to stray, check out these tips for how NOT to cheat on your long distance love.

by Melissa Chapman

Loyalty and loneliness

Being monogamous, when temptation is everywhere, can be difficult enough on a relationship, but add distance to the equation and the temptation to stray simply increases. While you’re completely head over heels for your man - seeing him just one weekend a month is beginning to wear on you. In fact, innocent flirtatious exchanges with a co-worker over the past several weeks, have now morphed into full-on make out-session dream sequences that you’re unable to stop from popping into your consciousness.

It’s not that you don’t cherish your monogamous long-distance relationship - it’s just not having the daily, physical affirmation, even something as simple as a soft caress of your cheek, or someone to be your couch potato buddy - has you feeling a bit empty and looking for some way to fill that void. While your co-worker’s flirtations, like complimenting your hair or remarking about your sweet nature, initially seemed to fill that gaping void it has progressed one step further. You know you need to nip these flirtatious exchanges, especially on your part, in the bud before they effectively destroy the long distance relationship you’re worked so painstakingly to maintain.

According to Jane Buckingham, author of The Modern Girl’s Guide to Sticky Situations, there’s nothing wrong with a little flirting. Consider it your romantic workout keeping those muscles in shape. But make sure your work workout knows that he is there to pass the 9-5 not the 5-9!

“Leading someone on never works out well. Be sure to remind him of your long distance BF and NEVER compare the two or put your boyfriend down,” says Buckingham. “Don’t let him think that there is room for him to make a move. This is fun and games, NOT you looking for a back-up plan. If, however, you find yourself suddenly dressing up more for the office, applying lip gloss a few too many times at work, and canceling your trips to visit your supposed paramour, you may want to rethink. Are your affections wandering? Perhaps long distance is taking its toll.”

Flirting is okay

According to Ms. Buckingham, like everything else, flirting can be fine if done in moderation. In fact, it can even be healthy! Flirting can be like telling a good joke. The more you do the better you get, and the more confident you will be. So when you are with your true love you will be at your sexiest and most courageous, able to entice him with your come hither wit. Having said that, too much flirting can get you into numerous sticky situations. Men may think you are teasing them. Women may think you are stealing their men, and your paramour may question your loyalty - not to mention the havoc it can wreak at work.

Keep flirting to a subtle minimum.

Unless you plan to follow through don’t let it get sexual. And if you feel like it’s getting carried away, just end it by saying “you’re funny” and walking away. If someone continues to flirt with you and the advances are unwelcome you say nicely “You’re sweet, but I would hate it if my boyfriend was talking to another girl like this so let’s change the topic, okay?” If he STILL doesn’t get the hint, you may have to be a little less subtle and say something more direct like, “Wow, I’m not sure what women those comments work on but it’s not how my boyfriend got me. Maybe that’s why you’re still single.” If all else fails, be sure to bring your guy around to the office next time he’s in town. Be as affectionate as possible (without being gross) and be sure to introduce your love to the creep as “the guy you mentioned” with a notable distaste in your tone. If that doesn’t give him the picture, nothing will!

Top five tips to keep from cheating on your long distance love

It may be old, but it’s true. It takes TWO to tango, notes Buckingham. Or tryst. Or text inappropriately. Or whatever it is you shouldn’t be doing. But to make sure you don’t find yourself turning harmless texting into sexting, keep these five tips in mind.

1. Try not to go more than two weeks without seeing each other.

And visit each other on BOTH territories. Not only will this keep you connected but it’s harder for potential poachers to prey once they’ve actually met you than when you are but a figment of their imagination.

2. Have a “date” once a week.

No, not really, but instead of just talking by phone while you shave your legs and he (well, let’s not think about that), set up a Google video chat, put on some makeup and meet face to face for 15 minutes. Any longer and you may find yourself stuck for conversation. If you run over great, but don’t pressure yourself to make it the length of a regular date. Or if you like, watch your favorite TV show together so you can hear and see each other laugh just like you are in the same room.

3. Meet in the middle

Being at home means things to do! Mail, laundry, work….how unromantic is that?! Instead meet somewhere neutral for a few nights so that you can both relax and enjoy

4. Avoid sticky situations!

Okay so a girl answered his phone. And said he was in the shower… and paused when you asked who she was… but don’t jump to conclusions! Maybe she’s the housekeeper he’s embarrassed to tell you he got! No one likes to be accused so wait until you are together to confront (er, ask) your boyfriend what the situation is. Be direct without being accusatory.

5. Find a wing woman!

Have a friend who won’t let you do anything when you are under the influence of anything…Alcohol, loneliness, too many episodes of True Blood. Let her know that ANY means are acceptable. If being faithful is that important to you, you’ll let her take you away.

Of course, if your flirtatious feelings are overwhelming and you cannot stick to these tips then Buckingham says… talk to your girlfriend!

“There is a reason people have friends and therapists. Not EVERYTHING needs to be discussed with your boyfriend,” says Buckingham. “For instance he probably doesn’t need the details on the big pimple you had that he didn’t see or your new laser hair removal process. If you are just enjoying flirting and remembering what it’s liked to be desired, tell a gal pal. There may be nothing more to it then the sensation of feeling adored.”

When temptation crosses into reality

If, however, you are truly feeling that you would rather be with your new “crush” than your long term beau, Buckingham advises that you talk about it.

“Be prepared though. He may not take it well. In fact, he may see it as reason to take a break from the relationship… and perhaps that’s what you need too,” says Buckingham. “But don’t wait until you’ve done the dirty (or even the messy) with your flirtation. And let’s be honest, there’s also an emotional line you shouldn’t cross either. If you find that you are sharing more with someone you just met than the person you are supposed to be closer to than anyone you might want to really rethink your relationship.

♥ The 7 Day Relationship Challenge ♥

2011-09-01T15:22:00.000+08:00

A long-lasting romantic relationship is built on a solid foundation of healthy habits both partners must learn to master. There are a myriad of tips for relationship success, but mastering these seven traits below will empower you both to bask in the joy and happiness a truly happy marriage or relationship can provide. This week, take the 7 Day Relationship Challenge and devote one day each week to truly understanding and applying these habits.

As you go along you'll see how each trait builds upon the other to provide a cohesive road map to a healthy relationship. At the end of each day, talk with each other about your observations and what you learned. You'll want to use this time as an opportunity to see things through your partner's eyes, while sharing your discoveries about your own habits - good and bad. At the end of the week celebrate your accomplishment with a nice date night out and talk about what you've learned in the process.

by Jennifer Good

Day One: Listening
There's much to be learned just from observation. Today you will spend your time focusing on really listening to what your partner is trying to tell you. If you have bad communication habits like interrupting or taking over your conversations, today's the day to work on eliminating these negative behaviors. If you can't listen to what your partner is really saying, you'll never be able to understand where they are coming from or what they really want and need from you.

Day Two: Understanding
Once you've started really listening to what your partner is communicating, you'll need to make sure you show them that you understand. Understanding takes on two forms, actually knowing what they're staying and then being tolerant of their point of view. Sometimes couples fall into a trap of not allowing their partner to feel or have an opinion that is different from theirs. It's okay to let people be who they are and if you take the time to REALLY understand their point-of-view, you may even come to agree with them. At the very least you can agree to disagree and learn to appreciate and respect each other's differences.

Day Three: Honesty
Today's theme is more about self-reflection. How honest are you being about your role in your relationship? Are you really being the best partner for your partner? Spend time today to give an honest assessment of where you could improve things in this respect. Maybe you're a little too critical or you're not expressing your own desires well enough. Honest self-reflection will help you uncover some of these relationship road-blocks.

Day Four: Forgiveness
After being in a relationship for a good length of time, you're bound to have experienced situations that have tarnished your ideal of a perfect relationship. The only way to get back to this "ideal" is to learn to forgive not just your partner, but yourself. Holding on to past issues is never going to help you or your future together. If anything, it just keeps you focused on the past. How well can you improve the what's going on now or in the future if your mind is stuck in the past? Today, go through all the mental grudges you have towards yourself or your partner and work on letting them go.

Day Five: Gratitude
When you are feeling grateful for someone or something, your outlook towards that particular area of your life immediately improves. Makes you wonder why you wouldn't spend all your time feeling appreciative. Harness this instant mood-lifter today and take the time to really feel gratitude towards your life, your partner and what you have together. Think of all things you really appreciate about them and maybe do a little something to show your thanks.

Day Six: Praise
Praise is the action step of gratitude, making it a natural next trait to focus on. Utilize all the feelings of good-will you generated yesterday and put them into action. Look for things you appreciate or respect your partner for and make sure you let them know how well they're doing. People respond to positive reinforcement much better than being called out for their mistakes. Take advantage of this and give a little back to your partner.

Day Seven: Attitude
Focusing on feeling grateful and praising your partner for all the things you appreciate about them makes it quite difficult to have a negative or "bad" attitude. However, at times it can creep in. Today, make it a point to concentrate on how often you're saying or thinking about negative comments or thoughts. Even the best meant critique can be better applied in a positive fashion. A better reaction can be created by really thinking about different ways to communicate the same thought in a more positive way. This applies to your own self-critique as well.

Wrap Up
after going through your week you should have noticed that each of these healthy relationship traits built upon each other to create a wonderful dynamic for a long lasting relationship. When you truly listen to and understand your partner you can be honest with yourself and each other about anything. Knowing you have this stability with each other makes forgiveness a much easier trait to allow. When you use these traits, showing your gratitude for this deep connection you both share leads you to give the praise your partner truly deserves. Overall this creates one very healthy attitude and positive outlook towards your relationship, which leads to a long-term successful relationship.

At any time in your relationship when you feel like things are going off the rails, take the challenge again or focus on any areas you might need some extra work on and make your own challenge.

What are your thoughts about this challenge? Share them below in our comment area!

♥ Restless ♥

2011-07-07T15:33:00.000+08:00

by MADEZ

Here I am, restless in my bed again.
Wondering if I ever cross your busy mind.
Wondering if the sight of your face will ever light up my eyes again.
I am afraid of losing you.
Afraid that I will never touch you again.
I miss the memories we made.
How we made love everyday.
How every word you tell me comforts even the deepest fears I have.
I love you.

And because I love you I will justify how devoted I am to you.
Regardless of what happened, I will never give up on you.
I will never quit on the promise my love made to you.
Your love for me I could never repay,
And someday you will see that we were meant to be together.
We were meant to get married and have kids.
We were meant to live our lives with nothing but love to fall back on.
I love you.

And because I love you, here I am.
Restless in my bed again.
Wondering if I ever cross your busy mind.
Wondering how a perfect love can go wrong.
But I will never give up because I am in love.
I may falter, but I will never fail.
I am too persistent to fail on you.
You are my driving force, the reason I do my best.
But without you, I am lost. I cannot go on.
So I'm asking myself,
Why am I here restless in my bed again.
Wondering if I ever cross your busy mind.
And today I swear this vow.
I am not an angel but I am true.
I will always love you.

♥ Promises ♥

2011-06-16T14:26:00.000+08:00

you were my boyfriend

you were my best friend

we were so great together

you promised to love me forever

you promised their was no one to take my place

you promised to give me my space

you promised to be there when i needed you

you promised to take care of me too

but, you kept pushing me to the end

always replacing me with your friends

until we have totally grown apart

didn’t you know it would break my heart

now we are two different

people in the same spot

pretending to be something we know were not

we always kiss and hug

just like we are still in love

we both know its not the same

there is no one here to take the blame

i just need someone to get me through it

i don't have many friends like you to do it

I’m glad your still here to listen

just someone to give me their attention

but we have tried so many times before

now it feels like someone has closed that door

maybe someday we will try another first date

hopefully by then it wont be too late

i will love you till the end of time

but i might not be here

When you make up your mind

by chunter1014

♥ Our Love ♥

2011-04-11T15:00:00.000+08:00

by daisyv

It was many years ago
When you told me you love me so
But I wasn’t sure, if it was true
For you didn’t insist the feelings that you had ..

How would I know
When you kept hiding
The feelings in your heart
Trying to ignore and escape
The love growing deep inside …

How lovely it would be
If you have tried and ask
If deep down in my heart
The same feeling is inside…

And now that we already know
That the love is still in our hearts
I want to hear from you
That you love me so
And still want my heart
For I know deep inside me
My heart wants no one but you…

And to share with each other
The feelings we have kept inside our hearts
Hoping tomorrow, we will be one
Embracing the love we have kept
That didn’t weaken
Even we didn’t see each other
For so many years....

♥ It's never too late ♥

2011-02-22T15:33:00.001+08:00

It's never too late
Now is the right time
To undo your fate
And start a different climb
Today is your day
To start brand new
There's another way
That's right in front of you
It's been calling you all along
To follow this path
And know it's not wrong
To never look back
Turn around now love
This is the end
See what you're fears are made of
Is actually a friend
And the only thing that dies
As you turn around
Is the disguise
That's kept you down
But not anymore
Cuz today you're brand new
You can no longer ignore
The real, loving and true
Inner YOU

By Mastin Kipp

♥ How to bring up difficult issues ♥

2011-02-14T14:22:00.002+08:00

Here's how to approach the tough subjects with your partner -- the difficult issues that can spark a fight (but don't have to).

Discussing the tough issues

Love-making has dropped to zero this month. OK, let’s be truthful: your love-making has been in a funk these past three months, and just saying that gives you the creeps.
You’re pretty sure he’s not having an affair (no time unaccounted for), he’s not that busy with work, what’s left? Does he not love you? Have those 10 (20?) pounds you picked up made you woefully undesirable? Does he hate your new 'do?
Ignoring the subject
You want to ask him, “What’s wrong? Is it me? Is it us?” but you’re not only terrified by what he might answer, you’re scared you’ll push him further away by even asking the question.
But the more you think about it, the angrier you get. Now you’re past tears. Now what you want to do is lash out with “How dare you treat me this way?! How dare you take me so for granted that you think I’ll stick around regardless of how you neglect me?!” You’re ready to storm out that door and slam it so hard the house comes down.
You swing wildly between fearful crying and angry lashing out, the upshot being, you don’t talk to him about it at all. And now you’re going on four months…
How to approach the difficult issues
Start by telling the truth -- the whole truth! -- not just how hurt, upset or angry you are, but also what you're feeling emotionally.

Ways to try addressing the subject include:

“I’m nervous about talking to you about this. I’m afraid you might take it wrong or get angry,”

“I’m uncomfortable mentioning this, but it’s important for me to share it with you, even though I’m scared you might not like what you hear.”
Wait to hear your guy’s response. It’ll probably be something like “I don’t know how I’ll feel about it, but OK, I’ll try to listen to you.” You can ahead know he’s put his rational mind on the front burner. If he says “Hey, if I don’t like it, too bad! If I get angry, tough!” then he’s not ready to hear it. Wait until he’s in a better place, and try again.
Share your initial discomfort about discussing prickly issues and you’ll make it much easier to resolve them.

Dr. Noelle Nelson

♥ Must Know Kissing Techniques ♥

2011-01-27T16:24:00.001+08:00

Become the lover you always wanted to be
What’s the difference between a kiss that goes flat and a kiss that tingles all the way down to the toes, igniting every nerve ending and impulse center on the way? Some kisses you can feel move through your body like a lovers soft caress, while others feel like the mechanical meeting of lips.

Cheek Kiss
A kiss that means 'I like you a lot'. Not too overdone or passionate yet a beautiful way to make your partner feel loved. That shows you aren't after them just for physical gratification.

Hand Kiss

A kiss on the hand. More often performed by guys, though either guys or girls can do it. There are no hard and fast rules for love expressions, remember? Historically, this kiss was performed by men bowing before the woman, which showed deference to a lady.

Butterfly Kiss
With the two of you really close to each other open and close your eyelids against your partners like the fluttering of a butterfly.

French Kiss
Also called as 'soul kiss' because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth's breath in the exchange across tongues. This kiss involving the tongue is a passionate one.

Eyelid Kiss
While your partner has their eyes closed or are asleep, a gentle kiss below the eyebrows partly on the eyelids. A very affectionate kiss.

Forehead Kiss
An affectionate and 'I care about you' kiss. Simply brushing your lips lightly across the crown of their head can be comforting to anyone.

Eskimo Kiss
With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together. Its the way Eskimos greet each other and show their affection and hence the name.

Shoulder Kiss
Simply come from behind, embrace her, and kiss the top of her shoulder. This is a sensual, loving kiss.

Sip Kiss
Take a small sip of your favorite drink. Leaving a little bit of it on your lips, kiss your partner. It is a unique way to create a sensual feeling.

Nip Kiss
While suck kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to hurt your partner. This kiss should only be done with someone that you've kissed a few times before, otherwise you may shock your partner. However,when done correctly can create a wonderful effect on your partner.

Quickie Kiss
A light peck on the nose, forehead or lips when you're in a rush. Often the nose gets it rather than the lips! A rather cute kiss!

Suck kissing This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner's lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.

Surprise Kiss
Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very gentle kiss on their lips while your partner is lying down on a sofa or the ground, either asleep or just lying with their eyes closed. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their eyes or awakens.

Letter Kiss
Send your lover a kiss in a love letter by applying lipstick (Red is the best) and kissing the letter at the bottom. Practice a few times on a blank sheet of paper until you get the perfect lip shape you are after. Also, throughout the letter, punctuate "I Love You" phrases with XXX (X = kiss, O = Hug).

If you really care about someone, are completely relaxed, there in the moment, and allow your kissing to find its natural rhythm and expression, you’ll find that your kisses become much more intense and enjoyable.

Learn more tips and techniques like these Become an expert in body language: interpret how your partner responds to your kiss and discover methods for becoming a fantastic kisser. There’s no way you can go wrong! Avoid rejection by learning the signals that tell you to go or not go for a kiss.

♥ Dreaming ♥

2011-01-18T17:55:00.000+08:00

by Carmelo

Come along with me, take my hand
Let’s dream together, reach for the stars
Hand in hand, together we’ll stand
These feelings, these dreams are ours

Close your Eyes and take a journey with me
To a place we’ve never been, never seen
Let your spirit soar, set your soul free
You’ll see there is a place so real, so serene

Open your heart let your feeling flow
You’ll see there’s no sorrow, no pain
You’ll find I’m here, just let your love grow
I’ll promise you it won’t all be in vain

So come along with me, let’s fly away
To where the stars meet the heavens
Let’s join the angels and where they play
And forever I can be with you in heaven

♥ Promises ♥

2010-11-22T01:21:00.001+08:00

you were my boyfriend

you were my bestfriend

we were so great togeather

you promised to love me forever

you promised their was no one to take my place

you promised to give me my space

you promised to be there when i needed you

you promised to take care of me too

but, you kept pushing me to the end

always replacing me with your friends

until we have totally grown apart

didnt you know it would break my heart

now we are two different

people in the same spot

pretending to be something we know were not

we always kiss and hug

just like we are still in love

we both know its not the same

there is no one here to take the blame

i just need someone to get me through it

i don't have many friends like you to do it

i'm glad your still here to listen

just someone to give me their attention

but we have tryed so many times before

now it feels like someone has closed that door

maybe someday we will try another first date

hopefully by then it wont be too late

i will love you till the end of time

but i might not be here

when you make up your mind

by
chunter1014

♥ Singles AND Dating ♥

2010-11-20T17:55:00.001+08:00

5 Shocking Sex Stats

Since religion, politics and money are off the table, try dropping one of these surprising sextistics at your next dinner party.

by Stephanie Georgopulos

· Sex stat #1.

A study conducted by the Kinsey Institute concluded that the average male loses his virginity at the age of 16.9. The average female swipes her v-card at 17.4.

· Sex stat #2.

Invest in a comfy couch: 12% of married couples sleep alone, according to the National Sleep Foundation.

· Sex stat #3.

A survey taken by the National Center of Health Statistics showed that the average woman has four sex partners in her lifetime; the average man has seven. Now we just need a statistic to show how many people lie about the number of sex partners they’ve had.

· Sex stat #4.

A Durex survey in 2001 showed that only 4% of respondents claimed to have sex daily.

· Sex stat #5.

According to the same Durex survey, couples who live together report having sex approximately 142 times a year (more than the national average), while married, cohabiting couples report having sex just 98 times a year.

2010-11-18T08:28:00.000+08:00

♥ Lost Without You ♥
by daisyv

I know deep in my heart
I will be lost without your love
For I know how your love
Keep my heart beat sway with gladness

I know you have love me this much
For I can see your face vividly in my mind
Every day as I lay down on my bed
Even upon awakening, you face is there

I know that our hearts beat as one
Even without seeing each other
They can feel, and see what is inside
It’s the love for each other since the day we meet….

I am thankful that you are my love
I choose you just for me,
And be together, forever as the days will pass
Because nothing can change our love for each other ‘till the last days of our lives.

♥ Should You Just Be Friends ♥

2010-10-10T12:21:00.000+08:00

Five situations where you might make better friends than lovers!

by Bob Narindra

Sometimes, even though you would hate to admit it, some friends should never become couples. While each relationship is different and almost all obstacles can be overcome, here are 5 situations in which you might want to consider just being friends.

#1 Your future goals are completely different.
Future goals play an important part in any relationship. If you are ambitious and your partner is not, then there may come a time when you realize that there is quite a gulf between you. The experiences of today, shape who you will become tomorrow. With the gulf in ambition, there could come a time when you just grow apart.

#2 You have different core beliefs.
Every couple needs to have some basic common points of agreement in order to succeed. These "agreements" could be as simple as you both know you want children, or that you both have similar moral values. While different points of view are often healthy for a relationship, some differences maybe a little too difficult to bridge. If you cannot find workable comprises to these differences, then it would probably be better to just be friends.

#3 Your relationship is purely sexual.
While sex is an essential and integral part of any relationship, a relationship built solely on sex is probably not going to go far. When "your place or mine" sums up the extent of your conversation then you really should consider just being friends… with a few benefits here and there.

#4 One of you is more committed than the other.
One of the hardest situations to deal with is when one partner is obviously more committed to the relationship than the other. It may be because one loves the other more, or it could be that one of you is just not ready to make a commitment yet. Such situations often cause resentment to build up, probably on both sides. If this is happening to you, consider cooling it for a while until you are both ready for the next step.

#5 You were more loving as friends.
A friend of mine once described the relationship between himself and his ex-wife as "great friends that should never have gotten married." That got me thinking and I realized that, with relationships come responsibilities and expectations that are not present between friends. If these added responsibilities and expectations are causing you to spend more time arguing and fighting than loving, then you might want to go back to what was successful for you… just being friends.

Remember, deciding whether or not to stay in a relationship is not a decision to be taken lightly and every relationship is different. The chances are, if you are reading this article then you probably are having a few doubts about your relationship. When making your decision, make sure you are not just having a "bad relationship day" and make your decisions for the long term. The above situations are just some guidelines to help you on your way.

♥ Relationship Compromises ♥

2010-10-10T10:20:00.000+08:00

Love, Singles & Dating

by Jessica Padykula

What aspects in your life should you be willing to change to make a relationship work?

Making a relationship work means being flexible. Making compromises is part of the deal. But you don’t want to over-compromise and give up too much of yourself to hold on to a guy. So how do you find a balance?

Gloria MacDonald, founder of Perfect Partners, a personalized matchmaking service, offers her advice on where you should loosen up. “I think you should be willing to change a ton,” she says. But she also stresses that what you do compromise on should never be the stuff of substance. For example, if finding someone who wants to have kids is important to you, or someone who understands the importance of family, then don’t compromise on those core values. But here are a few things you can be flexible on.

Your need to win and be right all the time
No one is right all the time, not even you. Even if your parents let you think you were never wrong and your best friend in elementary school let you win every argument, real life means being wrong some of the time and maybe not having to win every argument. There will be times that no one wins, when its better just to walk away rather than fight for hours or even days. And if he’s right, give him the satisfaction of accepting it. After all, maybe the next time you’ll be right, and won’t you want him to acknowledge the win?

Your idea of what a relationship should be
No, we don’t mean you should settle for any loser who comes along and offers to buy you a beer. But the scenario of your one true love being a complete and utter prince charming, who’s going to whisk you away to happy-land where all you do is gaze into each other’s eyes and have candle lit dinners, might have to be tweaked. You may have to compromise your belief that a relationship has to be perfect in order to be worth staying in. Relationships take work – even the great ones.

Your need to nag
Will socks on the floor make or break your relationship? Probably not. They may be annoying, but if you love him you’ll deal with the socks. The same goes for caps not being put back on toothpaste or dishes being put pack in the wrong cupboards. Nagging him about little things is just going to cause tension, and chances are there are things you do that drive him nuts. Save your concern for the bigger issues, like him never helping with housework or always breaking plans with you to hang out with the guys. No one is perfect, so you will have to accept some small annoyances in every relationship.

Your “list”
MacDonald says that most of us have a list in our heads of the criteria that make up the kind of guy we think we will end up with. She compares this ideal-man list to a shopping list. For example, you might think you are looking for a man who is olive skinned, dark haired, makes over 80K and loves golden retrievers. That’s all well and good, but what can happen is that when you start dating someone who doesn’t meet each and every one of those criteria, you don’t give the new relationship your all. MacDonald stresses that these lists we make can really hold us back. If you meet a guy and feel some chemistry, but he doesn’t meet your height and hair color requirements, go with it anyway. You never know what can happen.

♥ Promises ♥

2010-09-11T01:29:00.002+08:00

by chunter1014

you were my boyfriend

you were my bestfriend
we were so great togeather
you promised to love me forever
you promised their was no one to take my place
you promised to give me my space
you promised to be there when i needed you
you promised to take care of me too
but, you kept pushing me to the end
always replacing me with your friends
until we have totally grown apart
didnt you know it would break my heart
now we are two different

people in the same spot

pretending to be something we know were not
we always kiss and hug
just like we are still in love
we both know its not the same
there is no one here to take the blame
i just need someone to get me through it
i don't have many friends like you to do it
i'm glad your still here to listen
just someone to give me their attention
but we have tryed so many times before
now it feels like someone has closed that door
maybe someday we will try another first date
hopefully by then it wont be too late
i will love you till the end of time
but i might not be here

when you make up your mind

♥ If I Could ♥

2010-08-29T09:44:00.001+08:00

by seekerblue

I’m sorry that I’m not there
To wrap you in my loving arms
Until the gentle warmth of my body
Invades every dark crevice in your life,
Like sunlight chasing the darkness away.

I would rock you gently,
Like a mother cradling her newborn child,
And I would sing to you
The words the Lord would have me say
“You are my beloved.”

♥ If You Left Me Now ♥

2010-08-01T18:00:00.003+08:00

If you left me now, don’t know what I would do
This hearts not mine to keep in here,
it now resides with you
Way down deep inside of me,
is right where you belong
Never have I felt like this,
a love this deep and strong

I you left me today, how would I pull through
Don’t know exactly where I’d be,
or what the hell I’d do
You are such a part of me, I can’t imagine this
Living my life all alone,
or without your sweet kiss

And why do I love you,
this much and in this way
It’s all those little things you do,
think about, and say
Befriended and endeared to me,
like no one ere before
Keeps me coming back to you,
and keeps me wanting more

You know that I am trusting,
you with my tender heart
I’ve trusted you completely dear,
right from the very start
This has gone now way too far,
already too damn late
My heart’s completely tied to yours,
and to our common fate

If you are not real serious,
or of this dream not ready
Or if my heart’s not big enough,
or your compass isn’t steady
Break my aching heart right now,
damn, break it plum in two
Cause it’s not fair to let me keep,
this growing Love for you.

by Firewerks

♥ Over heard Lines In my Mum’s Saloon ♥

2010-06-10T18:30:00.000+08:00

OOOPPSSS!!

A : It’s weird. Her husband’s age doubles hers.

B : Yea, old enough to be her father.A : She looks fat since she got married.

B : Her husband is goddamn rich. That’s the reason.

A : Maybe she got pregnant.

B : I don’t think so. They’ve been trying to get baby for at least three years already.

A : Maybe he’s too old for that. You can’t plant without seeds.

B : But he had three children from his previous marriage.

A : Maybe he got expired.

B : Sperms will get expired?

crdt to, www.emilyyee.com

♥ 7 Little ways to make any guy swoon ♥

2010-05-08T05:06:00.002+08:00

You'd think the way to any man's heart would be as easy as baseball, beer and hotdogs. But alas, every dude is different. If you really want to make him swoon, pick one of these perfect, personalized dates. Your attention to detail will be a major turn-on -- plus it's a great way to show him you care without dropping a premature L-word bomb

For The OUTDOORSY DUDE

If your beau is a man-about-nature, plan an adult game of hide-and-seek that will quench his desire for experiencing all the unknowns of the wilderness. Get a GPS tracking device, such as SPOT Personal Tracker, and hide in the forest, a corn maze or any other outdoor area with obstructed views. Set a timer and instruct your man to find you at your specific GPS location. As crazy as it sounds, this will get your his heart beating as he searches for you. It's a man versus nature scenario to save his damsel in distress. Once he locates you, celebrate with a long, desperate kiss, enhanced by adrenaline and temporary absence.

For The MACHO MAN

Every guy likes to be Mr. Macho, but if yours is especially so, read on! To stroke his ego a bit, sign up for a highly testosterone-driven martial arts or self-defense class with him. You'll both learn some pretty impressive moves, and the inevitable physical contact can foreshadow the heat to follow the class. Note: Leave the messy hair concerns and broken nail complaints at home! This is an activity to please your macho man and feed his male ego.

For The Competitive GUY

Take your man's competitive nature to the racetrack. Whether it's a go-kart track or a professional competition speedway, put the pedal to the metal for some love demonstration. Try some flirty passing around corners and watch him sweat when you're in the lead. There's no satiation like that of driving recklessly at high speeds for men. Exploit his competitive spirit with this great activity that shows him you truly care.

For The ARTSY FARTSY CHAP

Is your man moved by all things art? Get tickets to a special screening of an indie film, and go out for wine or coffee afterward to discuss the film's cinematography, highlights and profound notions that made you ponder. He'll appreciate your intellectual analysis and the emotion the film evokes in you. For a monthly reminder of your love, get him a subscription to a design magazine, such as Metropolis, to continually feed his creativity.

For The Analytical fellow

If your man claims the world is black and white, demonstrate your affinity for him with a problem to solve. Write him a note about how great he is, but before mailing it to his office, translate it into code, assigning each letter a different one. For example, every 'A' would become a 'C' and every 'B' would become a 'D' so that each letter is two away from its origin. Be sure to make yourself a key! Your analytical man will welcome the challenge to decode it and read all your compliments as the prize.

For The Tech NERD

Dabble in the techy guy's online world a bit to show you care about his interests. Twenty-something Alexandra Evjen, who is married to a web developer, says she takes time to look over websites her hubby develops and shares her thoughts on them. She continues, “I also subscribe to some tech blogs just so I can stay up-to-date on technology, have things to add to our conversations and send him interesting articles." If your techy is into video games, plan a night each week you play the game he wants to play for an hour or two, even if you're blowing up aliens and saving the world!

THE SPORTS FREAK

For the guy who is the diehard sports fan, Amanda Melendez, the new bride of a sports freak, suggests checking which nights 'his team' is playing and inviting his friends over to watch it with him. Go ahead and stock up on his signature snacks and beverages, too! For the cherry on top, wear his favorite team's jersey on game night to show your support. Then, if the team makes it to the playoffs or championship games, Melendez recommends surprising him by purchasing tickets for the two of you to see the game. Her final piece of advice? Do your homework! "Sometimes women have to research the player or team, but it's worth it when [you see how happy it makes your man],” concludes Melendez.

♥ One Heart ♥

2010-04-14T09:59:00.003+08:00

It’s always been a mystery
What I felt deep in my soul
It felt so strong, so free
And somehow made me whole

I never thought this heart
Could hold so much for anyone
Your love filled every part
That’s when we became one

Two bodies but one heart beat
Your love’s always fed my fire
It made me feel so complete
It filled every dream, every desire

It’s always been a mystery
What I felt deep in my soul
But I see this was meant to be
As together we make each other whole

by Carmelo

♥ The 7 Steps to Happily Ever After ♥

2010-03-11T03:33:00.001+08:00

by Marjorie Ingall

What makes love last a lifetime? Affection? Yep. Respect? Sure. But a great marriage is not just about what you have. It's about what you do to make a relationship stronger, safer, more caring and committed. Here's how to make your "forever" fantastic.

Marriage is a home, a refuge against the outside storms. And like any house, it requires a strong, lasting foundation. To build one, every couple needs to take certain steps - seven, to be precise - that turn the two of you into not just you and me but we. You may not move through all the steps in order, and you may circle back to complete certain steps again (and again and again). But if you make it through them all, you'll be well on your way toward creating a marriage that will be your shelter as long as you both shall live.
Step 1: Find a shared dream for your life together. It's easy to get caught up in the small stuff of married life: What's for dinner tonight? Whose turn is it to clean the litter box? Did you pay the electric bill? But the best partners never lose sight of the fact that they're working together to achieve the same big dreams. "Successful couples quickly develop a mindfulness of 'us,' of being coupled," says REDBOOK Love Network expert Jane Greer, Ph.D., a marriage and family therapist in New York City. "They have a shared vision, saying things like, 'We want to plan to buy a house, we want to take a vacation to such-and-such a place, we like to do X, we think we want to start a family at Y time.'"
This kind of dream-sharing starts early. "Couples love to tell the story of how they met," points out Julie Holland, M.D., a psychiatrist in private practice in New York City and a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine. "It's like telling a fairy tale. But happy couples will go on creating folklore and history, with the meet-cute forming the bedrock of the narrative." As you write and rewrite your love story ("our hardest challenge was X, our dream for retirement is Y"), you continually remind yourselves and each other that you're a team with shared values and goals. And P.S.: When you share a dream, you're a heck of a lot more likely to make that dream come true.
Step 2: Ignite (and reignite) a sexual connection.
In any good relationship, sex is way more than just a physical act. It's crucial for the health of your emotional connection, too: It's something only the two of you share; it makes you both feel warm and loved; it draws you back together when you're drifting apart. And did I mention that it's a whole lot of fun?
Striking up those sparks when you first meet is easy. Nurturing a strong, steady flame? That's the hard part. When you've got a mortgage, a potbelly, and a decade or two of togetherness under your belts, it can be hard to muster up the fire you felt when you first got together. That's when it's even more important to protect your sex life and make it a priority. "You have to keep working to create allure and seduction for each other or your sex life will become lackluster," Greer points out. "Who wants the same turkey sandwich over and over? You want it on whole wheat! On toast! As turkey salad! On a roll!" (And now I will imagine my husband covered with Russian dressing. Thanks, Dr. Greer.)
As the years go by, you'll keep revisiting and realigning and reimagining the passion you have for each other. And if you keep at it, you'll have a sex life that transcends your marriage's lack of newness, the stresses of family and work, the physical changes that come with aging. Now that's something worth holding on to.
Step 3: Choose each other as your first family. For years, you were primarily a member of one family: the one in which you grew up. Then you got married, and suddenly you became the foundation of a new family, one in which husband and wife are the A-team. It can be tough to shift your identity like this, but it's also an important part of building your self-image as a duo (and maybe, eventually, as three or four or...).
For me, making this transition meant stopping the incessant bitching to my mom when I was mad at my husband - my behavior was disloyal, and I had to learn to talk to Jonathan, not about him. My friend Lynn tells the story of her mother's reaction to a trip to the Middle East she and her then-boyfriend (now husband) had planned. Her mother hit the roof, calling incessantly to urge Lynn not to go. Eventually, Lynn's boyfriend got on the phone with Mom and explained why they were excited to share this experience. "It was clear then that we were the team," Lynn says now. "Not teaming up against my mother, but teaming up together to deal with her issues."
Whatever your challenges - an overprotective mom? an overly critical father-in-law? - you have to outline together the boundaries between you and all of the families connected to you. Not only will you feel stronger as a united front but when you stick to your shared rules, all that family baggage will weigh on you a lot less.
Step 4: Learn how to fight right.
I'm embarrassed to think of how I coped with conflict early in my relationship with Jonathan. I stormed out - a lot. I once threw an apple at his head. Hard. (Don't worry, I missed - on purpose.) I had a terrible habit of threatening divorce at the slightest provocation. But eventually I figured that this was pretty moronic. I didn't want out, and I knew that pelting someone with fruit was not a long-term marital strategy.
"Fighting is the big problem every couple has to deal with," says Daniel B. Wile, Ph.D., a psychologist and couples therapist in Oakland, CA, and author of After the Fight. That's because fights will always come up, so every couple needs to learn how to fight without tearing each other apart.
Fighting right doesn't just mean not throwing produce; it means staying focused on the issue at hand and respecting each other's perspective. Couples that fight right also find ways to defuse the tension, says Wile - often with humor. "Whenever one of us wants the other to listen up, we mime hitting the TV remote, a thumb pressing down on an invisible mute button," says Nancy, 52, an event producer in San Francisco. "It cracks us up, in part because it must look insane to others." Even if you fight a lot, when you can find a way to turn fights toward the positive - with a smile, a quick apology, an expression of appreciation for the other person - the storm blows away fast, and that's what matters.
Step 5: Find a balance between time for two and time for you.
Jonathan and I both work at home. This frequently leads to murderous impulses. Though I'm typing away in the bedroom and he's talking to his consulting clients in our small home office, most days it really feels like too much intimacy for me.
But that's my bias. When it comes to togetherness, every couple has its own unique sweet spot. "There are couples that are never apart and there are couples that see each other only on weekends," Greer says. With the right balance, neither partner feels slighted or smothered. You have enough non-shared experiences to fire you up and help you maintain a sense of yourself outside the relationship - not to mention give you something to talk about at the dinner table. But you also have enough time together to feel your connection as a strong tie rather than as a loose thread.
Your togetherness needs will also change over time, so you'll have to shift your balance accordingly. "My husband and I spend a lot of time together, but it's almost all family time," says Katie, 40, a mom of two in San Leandro, CA. "We realized a few months ago that we hadn't had a conversation that didn't involve the kids or our to-do lists in ages, so we committed to a weekly date. We were so happy just to go to the movies and hold hands, something we hadn't done in ages. It felt like we were dating again!"
Step 6: Build a best friendship.
Think about the things that make your closest friendships irreplaceable: the trust that comes with true intimacy, the willingness to be vulnerable, the confidence that the friendship can withstand some conflict. Don't those sound like good things to have in your marriage, too?
"Happy couples are each other's haven," says Holland. "They can count on the other person to listen and try to meet their needs." Greer adds, "When you're true friends, you acknowledge and respect what the other person is; you don't try to control or change them. This creates a sense of safety and security when you're together - you know you're valued for who you are and you see the value in your partner."
Then there's the way, when you've been with someone a while, that you become almost a mind reader. You have a shared history and inside jokes. Your guy knows what you'll find funny, you forward him links to articles you know he'll enjoy, and best of all, you two can make eye contact at a given moment and say volumes without opening your mouths. And is there anything more pleasurable than sharing the newspaper with someone? Sitting in companionable silence, absorbed in your respective reading, sipping coffee, occasionally reading something out loud, but mostly just lazing happily together, communing without needing to speak? Ahh...
Step 7: Face down a major challenge together.
You're sailing along through life, and suddenly you hit a huge bump. A serious illness. Unemployment. The loss of a home. A death in the family. How do you cope? The truth is, you never know how strong your relationship is until it's tested. All too often, the stress of a crisis can pull a couple apart. But the good news is, when you do make it through in one piece, you might just find yourselves tighter than ever. "What didn't happen to us?" says Daryl, 28, a preschool teacher in Harrisburg, PA. "My husband lost his job and took a minimum-wage job he was way overqualified for just to make ends meet. He was offered a better job in a mountain town outside San Diego, so we moved. Then during the California wildfires several years ago, our house burned down and we lost everything. We were living in a one-room converted garage with no running water and a newborn. But we found that this chaos somehow brought us even closer together. We took turns losing it. We really kept each other sane." Hey, marriage is no roll in the hay. It's tough, real work. But the reward, the edifice you build together that will shelter you through years of tough times, is more than worth the effort. The small, friendly cottage you build Â— decorated with your shared history and stories, filled with color and laughter Â— will be the warmest and safest retreat you can imagine.

♥ Those Three Little Words ♥

2010-02-10T23:11:00.001+08:00

30 Ways to say 'I Love You'

You can say so much with just those three little words, but sometimes actions speak louder than words. Show you care with these fun ideas. Below we share 30 ways to say 'I love you' without saying a word.

Katarina Kovacevic

Fun ways to say 'I Love You'

1. Guys in tight pants running across a football field may not be your thing, but taking part in his interests is important. Surprise him with tickets to a football game - and go with him.
2. If he hasn't been able to make the trek cross-country to his hometown since last Christmas, consider buying him a plane ticket home.
3. If you know your guy is working a long shift, have a nice warm dinner waiting when he gets home. We're not trying to get all 1950s housewife on you, but the effort will show him you empathize with his crazy schedule.
4. Pay attention to his cute, quirky habits. Is he always waking up thirsty in the middle of the night? Put a glass of water on his nightstand.
5. Leave him a sweet note in his briefcase or wallet. This is especially great if your significant other does a lot of business traveling.
6. Give him some time off and take up his chores for the day.
7. Before you drift to sleep, tell him something he did that day you thought was especially sweet.
8. Cut out newspaper or magazine articles you think he'd enjoy and set it aside for him.
9. Leave the house for a Friday evening and let him enjoy a night-in poker game with the guys. Before you skip out, make a platter of his favorite snack.
10. Fly his best friend in for a guys' weekend.
11. Secretly patch up the hole in his favorite pair of shorts and put them back in the drawer without saying a word.
12. Get his car washed.
13. Pack his favorite lunch for two and bring it to his office.
14. Ask him how his soccer game went or how his big presentation turned out - and pay attention.
15. Stock up on his toiletries if you see he's running low.
16. If you and your sweetie live in separate places, keep your fridge stocked with his favorite foods.
17. Wake up early on a weekday and make him breakfast, set the paper on the table and fill up his to-go coffee mug.
18. Take his dog on a walk or come over with a surprise treat for the pup.
19. Buy him the box set of his favorite childhood TV show.
20. Bake him a cake - just because - and write 'I love you' in frosting across the top.
21. If you're out of the house before him in the morning, turn on the heater so it's nice and warm when he gets up.
22. Draw him a hot, candlelit bath.
23. Set your computer's screen saver with a sweet message for him.
24. Send him a romantic greeting card via snail mail. Even if you live together.
25. Play hooky with him from work on a Wednesday and spend the entire time in bed watching movies. Turn off all phones.
26. Show respect to his family and their traditions - especially if you're from different cultural backgrounds.
27. Flirt like you just met.
28. Tell him your deepest, darkest, nerdiest secret.
29. Nurture his nerdy side. Buy him a Star Wars figurine; surprise him the collector's edition of Harry Potter.
30. Write him a love note in a secret code and give him the key to decipher the message.

♥ Life is Nothing Without You ♥

2010-02-02T20:22:00.004+08:00

My life is nothing without you sweetheart
You are the glue that holds me together
And keeps me from falling apart
I’ve loved you from the very beginning
When our eyes met for the first time
I was willing to do anything
To see it again
And see your glowing smile
And hear your voice again
After all this time together
Your voice will echo
From now to forever
We have experienced every wonder of the highest points
To the nightmares
And horrors of the lowest points
What we have has never faded once
And it will never fade, never.
I don’t care how rough our life might be
as long as your there with me
It will always be the best it can be.
Because it doesn’t matter if all I have is you
since you are my everything.
And life is nothing without you.
And everything in the world
couldn’t replace that
If you promise to always stay by my side
I will promise you to always
keep what we have intact
Because I’d rather have nothing and only you
Then everything without you

by khran

♥ Interview Guide ♥

2010-01-10T02:22:00.002+08:00

Read the job description and company profile carefully so that you are aware of the job details when an employer calls you about your application. If the job advertisement does not contain enough information, ask the employer for more details.

Remember to write down the name and contact number of the recruiter in case you need to call back later.
Prepare for the interview by finding out more about the company, the job and the industry.
Be punctual for your interview. Bring your resume, transcripts, certificates and relevant documents to the interview.
IMPORTANT: If you cannot attend the confirmed interview for whatever reason, you must contact the employer at least a day earlier to let them know.
Keeping a good interview attendance record will help to ensure opportunities for interview in the future, as employers have the right to share no-show and late cancellation records.
If you do not have the employer's contact details, look under the Company Profile in the Application Status page
Send the employer a Thank You email after the interview.
Follow up with the employer on the status of the interview after two or three days. This shows your interest for the job and may increase your chances of success.

♥ Snuggle Up! ♥

2009-12-31T23:33:00.002+08:00

A hug is a silent acknowledgment of your appreciation and understanding of your partner. A hug can communicate a thousand words, when words would otherwise fail. When you couple this with the added well-known benefits of physical touch, it is easy to see why the underrated hug can do wonders for any couple. Make it a point to include hugging in your everyday life; by doing so, you will show your partner that you value their intimacy as well as their companionship. Below you will find 20 ways to get you started!

The Best Hug-Filled Opportunities

In the bath together.

On a blanket while watching the stars.
In bed, before you get up for the day.
While waiting in line together.
When you greet or say goodbye to each other.
In the shower together.
On the spur of the moment just because you love them.
While reading a book together.
Unexpectedly, when your partner is on the phone.
In the back of the car at a drive-in movie.
After your partner has done something you appreciate.
During a romantic picnic.
When your partner is upset about something.
While watching a movie.
In a cozy booth at an intimate restaurant.
When your partner gets out of the bath or shower.
After a play wrestling match.
On a cold winter's night in bed or in front of the fire.
Before giving them a token of your love such as a flower, love poem, etc.

Positive Reinforcement

IF YOU ARE THE HUGGER : Tell your partner why you are hugging them.
IF YOU ARE BEING HUGGED : Share why you enjoy being hugged with your partner.

♥ 10 Traits He Wants in a Girlfriend ♥

2009-12-28T18:36:00.003+08:00

According to Gloria MacDonald, founder of Perfect Partners, a personalized matchmaking service, men are subconsciously looking for three things: Beauty, health and youth. Yes, it sounds superficial and, it is. But MacDonald stresses that they just can’t help it. They’re wired this way. “The more you can do to look beautiful, healthy and youthful, the better your chances are,” she says.

So where does that leave us? Well, even if you aren’t giving Angelina or Cameron a run for their money in the perfect ten department, there are ways to boost your date ability and give him what he’s looking for.

♥by Jessica Padykula

1. Dress for your body type
Just because it looks good in the magazine or in the shop window, doesn’t mean it will suit you and your body. Whether you have a tiny waist and large hips, long torso and short legs or tend to be a bit round all over, there are things you should wear – and things you shouldn’t. The trick here is to go shopping with someone objective, someone who will be honest about what looks good on you. If all else fails, invest in a session with a personal shopper. They will save you from many fashion missteps and teach you what works best for your body type.

2. Highlight your best features (and downplay the less favorable ones)
Make-up isn’t for everyone, but that doesn’t mean you can’t dabble. There are simple ways to shine the spotlight on your best features and minimize the ones you don’t want him to focus on. Head to your local department store and ask them for a makeover. Yes, they will encourage you to buy things, but at the end of it, you’ll know how to show off your high cheekbones, while making the dark circles under your eyes disappear.

3. Take care of your skin
Many of us are not born with flawless skin. But even if dewy and glowing aren’t what stare back at your in the mirror, do what you can with what you have. Wash the make-up off before you hit the pillow, moisturize, wear sunscreen (always), and splurge on a session with an aesthetician so you can learn what products best suit your skin type.

4. Embrace the gym
Whether you’re trying to lose that last ten pounds or you just like that post-workout glow you get after your kickbox class, exercise is your friend, especially if you want to find – and keep a guy. It will keep you in shape, boost your confidence, tone you up in all the right places and just make you feel good.

5. Think positive
If you have a positive attitude, you have a better chance of attracting a date. “What goes on in your head is one of the most important things that can make you more dateable,” MacDonald says. The more positive you feel, the happier you will be and the more pleasant you’ll be to spend time with.

6. Know how to flirt
Flirting is all about creating a rapport and making a connection with someone, ideally, someone whom you’d like to get to know better. Not comfortable flirting? Practice wherever you go — the more you do it, the easier it will become.

7. Be a good listener
No one wants to date someone who makes them feel boring. You don’t have to jump up and down every time he opens his mouth, but pay attention to when he talks. “Be sincerely and genuinely interested in what the other person is saying,” explains MacDonald.

8. Have a hobby and interests
In order to have something to talk about and an identity outside that of your potential significant other, you need a life of your own. This could be a book club, pottery class or weekend mountain bike races. Regardless of the activity, do something for you, that you enjoy so you aren’t so wrapped up in him that you drive him insane.

9. Be a balanced conversationalist
Some people dominate the conversation, some people stay quiet. Others ask so many questions they make you feel like you’re under investigation by the FBI. Being a good conversationalist means having the right balance of talking, asking and listening.

10. Exude confidence
Obviously, confidence doesn’t grow on trees, and unless you count the liquid variety (i.e. vodka), it doesn’t come in a bottle either. But if you feel good about yourself, you will be more attractive to the opposite sex. The more confident you are, the less desperate you will appear. And we all know that desperation does not usually lead to a full dance card.

♥ Is This Really The One? ♥

2009-12-26T06:28:00.001+08:00

Whether or not your partner is right for you is one of the most important decisions of your life. Your entire future depends on these choices so how can you be sure you have the picked the right one?

Well, the first thing you need to do is honestly ask yourself is why you love or are with your partner? You would be surprised at the answers you hear when you ask that same question to your friends.

The wrong answers to that question include the following:

Because they love me.
It's better than being alone.
I don't want to hurt them.
Because I am not sure I would find someone better.

These answers indicate a relationship built upon fear, insecurity and pity.

There are good matches out there, but if there are too many ifs, ands or buts then sooner or later the relationship will fail. Now that doesn't mean you will break up, you could stay together for the rest of your lives and still fail as a couple.

So the question still remains, how do you choose the right partner?

Obviously you are going to choose a partner that you are physically attracted to. Apart from that aspect, there are a few important areas you should look at:

Communication Level
When you talk to them, are they on the same level as you? How long does it take them to answer your question? Do you get bored because they answer everything else under the sun rather than the question you asked or do you enjoy the tangents they take you on?

Do they speak very slowly compared to you? Do they understand you when you speak? Can you really talk to them about absolutely anything?

This may not seem important now but could you imagine living with someone for the next 50 - 70 years that can never answer a direct question, frustrates you to no end by their speed of communication and just doesn't get it when are trying to explain something to them?

Common Interests
This is really a given. You have to have something in common with them to be able to be with them. Otherwise you will have nothing to talk about and nothing to do together. Yes, physically you may have great sex, but how far can that really take you? When two people have different interests, one person usually ends up sacrificing their desires for the other person... or you end up living completely separate lives.
Ambitions
Do you both want the same things in life or are they going to hold you back? Are they willing to let you have that career you have always wanted. Even if it means working long hours plus going to school at night?
Ethics Level
Do they have the same values as you? Would they feel totally OK doing something that you would have strong objections to or vice versa? Do you have the same beliefs on major issues such as religion, prejdudice, raising children etc? If not, is this something that will become a problem in the future?
Grooming and Cleanliness
Are they a slob and you the type of person that likes to keep the house immaculate? Do you take the same level of care of your appearance?

There is a lot of false information about relationships out there. One of the biggest lies is that opposites attract. That is really just a myth. Now a lot of the things I have listed above do come down to personal choice. It comes down to what you are and are not willing to accept. Just because you have fallen in love with someone does not mean that they are the right one for you. The number of people in physically abusive relationships should be testament enough to that.

One thing is for sure. Do not settle for something less than you want because you are scared of hurting them, being alone or you feel this might be the best you can get. You never know what you might have missed that was right around the corner. Settling is always settling, no matter what way you look at it. By doing so, you will be left with a lifetime of "what ifs".

♥ Bob Narindra

♥ Tell-tale Signs that It’s Love, Love, Love ♥

2009-12-25T10:25:00.000+08:00

You’ve got butterflies, good conversation, maybe even great sex, but sometimes it can be difficult to be sure if it’s love. How do you decipher whether the feeling in the pit of your stomach is the nervous quivering of anticipation or yesterday's lunch? Here are some tell-tale signs that it just be might be love, love, love.

You are best friends. You laugh with them more than anyone else. The feelings of anticipation, passion, and connection are mutual. You remember little things about each other like their favorite foods, the places they want to visit and why, their views on everything from politics to fashion, and what they love about their closest buddies, but is it enough? Take a look at these signs to be sure.

What he’ll do:

Put you on his “A” list (pay attention -- You'll know if you're not on it)
Introduce you to his family
Make plans for the future (near and far)
Do things outside of his “box” with you
Share his secrets and his dreams for the future with you
Worry about impressing your friends
Come right over when you ask him to
Try to do things that comfort you or relieve some of your stress (like surprise you with dinner on a night you are working, rub your feet, or ask about your day)
Appreciate and reciprocate your feelings and your actions like giving you a massage after he gets one from you, doing the dishes after dinner, or sending you a gift

What she’ll do:

Share her embarrassing moments and fantasies with you
Little things all throughout the day that let you know she’s thinking about you
Fantasize about her life with you, getting married, having kids, growing old, traveling the world, etc.
Tease you
Hang out with your mother or talk to her on the phone
Appreciate and reciprocate your feelings and your actions, like offering to pay for dinner, getting tickets to a game or event she knows you’ll love, or cooking for you
Ask questions about your life -- past, present, and future
Flirt with you

How you’ll feel:

Excited, yet relaxed
Vulnerable, yet strong
Comfortable enough to be yourself in front of them
Like you want to include them in everything (but you won't desert your usual crowd to be in a relationship with them)
You’ll miss them when they’re not around
You can’t wait to see them, talk to them, play with them, and kiss them
You’ll find yourself wanting to make plans to have them all to yourself
You’ll have urges to do romantic things (maybe on the verge of stalker-like things) that you never thought you’d never do

Signs that it’s not love:

They blow you off or cancel dates
Talking about commitment makes either of you uneasy or nervous
Either of you are seeing other people
Things are moving too quickly for one of you
You find your partner lacking when compared to other people
You watch a love scene in a movie or hear a love song and you feel a strong longing or desire for what you don’t have

Tips before you commit:

Take the time to compare who you have with who you know deep down that you desire and deserve. Likewise, compare the relationship you have with the one you know you really want.
Pay attention to how they treat their friends, family, business associates, and strangers. This is a good indication of how they will treat you over time and a big insight into their overall character.
Ask yourself how well you know them and how well they know you.

♥ My Love for You ♥

2009-12-12T13:33:00.000+08:00

♥ Be Thankful For ….. ♥

2009-11-30T11:22:00.004+08:00

by Sheena McVee

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire,

If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don't know something

For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.

During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations

Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge

Because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes

They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you're tired and weary

Because it means you've made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.

A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are

also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.

Find a way to be thankful for your troubles

and they can become your blessings.

♥ New Relationship : Dos & Don'ts ♥

2009-11-28T09:16:00.002+08:00

♥ - by Brettani Shannon

The first few weeks of the love game is when one of two things might happen :
Romance and passion infects you, bonding your hearts forever more, or one of you flops and ruins the chemistry before it has a chance to take hold. Which will it be for you? Heed our tips and make sure your relationship kicks off with a bang.

Conversation
Have normal, get-to-know-you conversations. Talking incessantly about how you feel and how great things are going between the two of you is nothing short of obnoxious. It projects a certain amount of immaturity that repels the good dates and attracts the wrong ones.

Pressure
Pressuring your date to do anything is a big no-no. Once again, it is a sign of relationship immaturity as well as personal immaturity. You could beg your date to go to church with your family on Sunday or argue good reasons to stay the night with you -- the nature of your pressuring doesn't matter. What matters is that you are selfishly disrespecting your date’s boundaries. If a relationship starts off with one person pressing on the other’s limits or preferences, there are bound to be loads of regret by the end of it.

Taking Hints
Pay attention to the clues your date is giving you. They may be inviting more intimacy, they may be trying to show you where their boundaries are, or they may be trying to subtly tell you that you’ve got dragon breath. Either way, you want to know, so pay attention. If you aren’t sure, ask; it is a far better option than making the wrong assumption.

Texts and Phone Calls
Refrain from over-calling/texting to keep things light and friendly. Remember the guidelines for conversation even when texting. The “I miss you” text every day when you only just met is really annoying. Not until you are an “official” couple is it appropriate to text or call to talk about your emotions or anything sexual. Don’t call or text to tell them how nice their butt looked the night before. Save that sort of flattery for when you are in the moment, and even then, use it sparingly because it can easily be construed as trashy and rude. What you should focus on is getting to know the other person and letting them get to know you. Think of it this way… After every message or every phone conversation, the other person is going to mull over it in their mind and might even talk about it with a friend. They will dismantle every word you said and search for more meaning behind the words.

Honesty
Everybody wants to put their best foot forward in a new dating relationship, but don’t pretend to be someone you are not. In turn, watch for warning signs that your date isn’t all they seem to be. Dishonesty, especially misrepresenting themselves, is a big red flag that shouldn’t be ignored. When you do get a clue that there are major differences in areas like spirituality, family, social ethics, or politics, be honest with yourself about the possibility of being truly happy with them. You are looking for a match and so are they.

Gut Instincts
Listen to your gut. If you hear the little alarms going off inside of you, pay attention to them. It is easy to brush your feelings to the side in an effort to fall in love, but when you ignore your instincts over and over again, it gets more difficult to recognize when they are trying to alert you. Most of the time, later on in a relationship or a while after a relationship, one can look back and see the exact time during the first few weeks (many times in the first couple of days) that they had a gut feeling about their date and it turned out to be right.

Judgment
Don’t be too quick to judge. Sometimes it is wise to look at yourself just as critically during a new relationship. For instance, if you are often turned off by how little men spend on you when they take you out, perhaps it is your value system that needs a check-up rather than theirs.

Maintaining Your Self
Don’t drop everything else in your life. It is common, especially for women, to forget about themselves and take on the identity of their partners. That is the consequence of bad past relationships and lack of positive relationship role models. You can prevent losing yourself in a new relationship by keeping the things that matter to you a part of your daily life. Things like journaling, reading, exercising, and spending time with friends and family, all the things that help to keep you a healthy, balanced person, should remain high on your priority list. Make a point to enjoy the same things you normally do, even in the first weeks of a new romance.

Lowering the Bar
Keep your standards high. Don’t talk yourself into being okay with something that you aren’t. Settling is a sure way to get yourself into a miserable relationship. Do you remember the last time you said to yourself, “I should have known when they… ?” If you aren’t sure what your standard is, make a list of all the things you want in a partner. If your date doesn’t fit the bill, don’t waist your precious time.

Planning and Paying
It is a great idea to trade off date planning and date funding. Not to say that it should be a regulated arrangement of every other date or anything, but stepping away from the traditional system of men planning and paying for all dates can be a lot of fun and make it easier to get to know each other. Taking control of the rendezvous enables you to surprise them, impress them, and romance them. In addition, you can learn a lot about them by switching roles.

Alcohol Consumption
The general rule is to stay relatively sober for at least the first month of dating someone. Getting sloshy drunk anytime in those first few weeks is likely to be your kiss of death. They will undoubtedly see you at your worst and redeeming yourself from that is not an easy feat.

Meeting Friends, Family, and the Ex ; Ease your new love interest into your social circles. Start off by introducing them to a few select friends, particularly those who help you “screen” prospective mates. An introduction to family members, especially parents, and ex’s, even if they are still a part of your life, shouldn’t happen until you are at least approaching a month of dating. Why? Besides being a little weird and moving too fast, you want to wait because it takes a while to establish comfort levels in social situations. This will give you time to learn to recognize each other’s cues and know enough about each other that an “inner circle" situation isn’t uncomfortable.

Keeping Your Distance
Don’t overwhelm them with attention. Don’t invite yourself over more than once a week, and don’t smother them with physical affection when you are together. You may feel the urge to reach out and touch their sweet face over and over again, but refrain because it is uncomfortable. Men and women often make the mistake of jumping into “couple” behaviors like smooching, holding hands, using terms of endearment, and touching them in sexual ways too soon and scaring off their dates. I will again reiterate that getting to know someone for who they are as an individual should be the focus of a new relationship. Too often, people get caught up in the romance before realizing how little they actually know about their partner.

Skeletons
Everybody has their dirty little secrets, and it wouldn’t be good for you to go telling them to every person you date, but you might want to drop a hint here and there to test the waters. In those first couple of weeks, be as honest as you would like them to be with you. For some couples, after a few dates and things are going well, it could help to discuss the fact that you both have pasts and that you should share them later on down the road. Just make sure that when that one month mark (or comparable milestone) comes around, you let them know some of the details of the skeletons you alluded to. Otherwise, they become secrets that will surely hinder your relationship.

♥ BRAIN DAMAGING HABITS ♥

2009-11-17T13:34:00.001+08:00

1. No Breakfast

People who do not take breakfast are going to have a lower blood sugar level. This leads to an insufficient supply of nutrients to the brain causing brain degeneration.

2 . Overeating = 2 0
It causes hardening of the brain arteries, leading to a decrease in mental power.

3. Smoking
It causes multiple brain shrinkage and may lead to Alzheimer disease.

4. High Sugar consumption
Too much sugar will interrupt the absorption of proteins and nutrients causing malnutrition and may interfere with brain development.

5. Air Pollution
The brain is the largest oxygen consumer in our 20 body. Inhaling polluted air decreases the supply of oxygen to the brain, bringing about a decrease in brain efficiency.

6 . Sleep Deprivation
Sleep allows our brain to rest.. Long term deprivation from sleep will accelerate the death of brain cells..

7. Head covered while sleeping
Sleeping with the head covered increases the concentration of carbon dioxide and decrease concentration of oxygen that may lead to brain damaging effects.

8. Working your brain during illness
Working hard or studying with sickness may lead to a decrease in effectiveness of the brain as well as damage the brain.

9. Lacking in stimulating thoughts
Thinking is the best way to train our brain, lacking in brain stimulation thoughts may cause brain shrinkage.

10. Talking Rarely
Intellectual conversations will promote the efficiency of the brain

♥ The main causes of liver damage ♥

2009-11-16T14:22:00.000+08:00

1. Sleeping too late and waking up too late are main cause.

2. Not urinating in the morning.

3 . Too much eating.

4. Skipping breakfast.

5. Consuming too much medication.

6. Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring, and artificial sweetener.

7. Consuming unhealthy cooking oil.

As much as possible reduce cooking oil use when frying, which includes even the best cooking oils like olive oil. Do not consume fried foods when you are tired, except if the body is very fit.

8. Consuming raw (overly done) foods also add to the burden of liver.

Veggies should be eaten raw or cooked 3-5 parts. Fried veggies should be finished in one sitting, do not store.

We should prevent this without necessarily spending more. We just have to adopt a good daily lifestyle and eating habits. Maintaining good eating habits and time condition are very important for our bodies to absorb and get rid of unnecessary chemicals according to 'schedule.'

♥ taking alone time ♥

2009-10-11T16:45:00.000+08:00

Scheduling alone time is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. To be the best person you can be, including the best partner, lover, and friend, you have to stay true to you and the only way to do that is to spend time with yourself and nobody else. Spending time alone gives you the opportunity to feed your soul, resituate your sense of self, and get in touch with your individuality. Without alone time, the opposite often comes true.

It is never too late to get back in touch with your true self. Take it on as a project and add your alone time to your daily planner. Plan a few hours alone each week and an occasional weekend to yourself. It may sound like a lot for those of you out there who aren’t used to it, but you will see the positive results right away. The more of a commitment you give to yourself, the healthier a person you will be, and in turn, the better you can fill the roles you have chosen in your family.

Daily
Schedule a little alone time for yourself every single day. It may only be relaxing for a few minutes before the rest of the house wakes up or taking advantage of the occasional hour home alone, but make sure that it happens on a regular basis.

Keep yourself involved in a hobby you enjoy doing by yourself. Find a great artistic outlet for yourself. Things like dancing, painting and photography are some of the best ways to grow the seeds planted inside of you.
Spend a few minutes at the end of your days to journal. Lay your thoughts and feelings to rest before hitting the pillow and your overall health and wellness will benefit.
Motivate yourself. Read something inspiring when you wake up, or take a few minutes during the day to reset and give yourself a little pep talk.
Exercise. Go for a jog, walk, hike, or bike ride by yourself. You will get the time alone to reflect, decompress, and recharge, but you will also get the benefits of feeling good about daily exercise (or a couple of times a week) like the release of endorphins, better digestion, healthier heart, and nicer legs.

When You Have An Hour
Each week, when your hour of scheduled alone time comes up, resist the urge to flip on the TV and spend some real quality time with yourself.

Spend your time looking for a new book. Don’t feel the pressure of finding a book that will help you deal with any issues you have. Find something that you will fall in love with, an adventure, a love story, a biography. If you’ve already got a book you know you will love, spend your whole hour in its pages.
Listen to music. Choose retro girlie stuff and dance around the house like you are 13 again, emotional ballads and karaoke your heart out, or inspirational tunes to just sit and enjoy where they take you.
Write. Journal or start a writing project like a children’s book or autobiography, or try your hand at some poetry.
Meditate. Meditation is of the essence for your spiritual, emotional and physical self to be healthy. If you haven’t spent time in meditation before, try a guided meditation of some sort. You can even get CD’s that guide you through meditation for all sorts of purposes like your health, peace, relaxation, listening to your heart, and more.
Take a bath. Bring along a good book, a glass of wine, or your favorite music. Light some aromatic candles and lock the door.

When You Have A Few Hours
Every couple of weeks, make time to go do something fun all by your lonesome.

Do something really exhilarating like bungee jumping or sky diving and get the extra thrill of doing it all by yourself, all for yourself.
Work on a project you’ve been wanting to do like a gardening mission, a do-it-yourself design project, or making a scrapbook.
Take yourself on a day trip. Pack yourself a picnic and hop in the car. Drive somewhere beautiful and peaceful where you can spend your day. You could hike, bike, or ride a horse somewhere wonderful or just drive, stopping off when you see something interesting.
Spend the day at a museum, art or otherwise. They are great places to let your imagination wander and also reflect on your life.
Hang out at the beach, river or next to the pool, soaking in the sun and thinking or reading or listening to music.

When You Have The Whole Weekend
At least once a season, schedule yourself a whole weekend or more to get centred. The first time you do this, guaranteed, it will be life-changing. Save up a bit of money for yourself without feeling guilty. You won’t regret it.

Take yourself camping. Pack your favourite foods, a good book, plenty of firewood, and just hang out with yourself. Getting out in nature is also a great time spend digging into your spirituality and journaling as well. If a tent in the forest isn’t your cup of tea, get yourself a cabin or a room in a peaceful resort.
Take a train trip with one of those great travel passes where you can hop on and off as often as you like for a certain amount of time. The pass gives you the freedom to be totally spontaneous and travelling by train the least stressful way to travel.
Spend your weekend at a spa. Eat healthy foods, hydrate in mud baths, detox with body wraps, relax with massage, and relax all day in fluffy robes. Take therapeutic walks through gardens and get into a really good book while you are there. Come back feeling refreshed and renewed.

by Brettani Shannon

♥ You Are My World ♥

2009-10-08T17:15:00.003+08:00

The thought of you makes me wonder
How little things in life can get me under
It really made me see
That you mean a lot to me
You’re the light of my everyday sun
The laughter in my fun
You’re the formation of my favourite constellation
And you relieve me of all of my frustration.
You showed me the miracle of love,
And helped me when things got rough
You were there for me from the start
And now you’re the beating of my heart.
You’re the weakness in my knees
The warmth in a cool breeze
You’re the smile on my face
And the pace in my race
You invaded all of my thoughts
And impressed me with you’re knowledge
With all the special moments you’re stealing
You give my life real meaning
You are my knight in shining armour
Protective, like a daughter’s father
The thought cut through me like a knife

When I realized , You Are My World !!!!

♥ broken-love-hurts ♥

2009-10-07T07:25:00.000+08:00

♥ forever friends ♥

2009-10-06T10:11:00.004+08:00

We were just friends when started out

that we'd be more I had my doubt
suspect of malice as all that came before

Still you came back to talk with me

Your true blue heart I couldn't see
Because I kept you locked outside my door

And back again you came to touch

Your gentle kindness meant so much
I dreamt of being friends for evermore

Then every eve you came to say

I care dear friend, how was your day?
I came to trust you wouldn't hurt me more

Each day in and each day out

Your sweetness did dissolve my doubt
I fantasized what next would be in store

Soon I began to see in you

A friend that was forever true
So I unlocked and opened up that door

There you stood and smiled at me

And I could now so plainly see
You're so unlike all those that came before

Eye to eye, and face to face

I soon beheld your kindly grace
And deeper thoughts came racing to the fore

You are a woman, I am man

and even though as friends began
I feel we are still friends but so much more

And smiling as you looked at me

You said, "Dear man I'd hoped you'd see"
"That's how I've felt for you since way before"

Astonished that I'd been so blind

I looked inside surprised to find
Breaking love like waves upon the shore

As we begin our lives to share

I hope you see how much I care
And know it's you that I'll always adore

We started out as friends you see

Forever friends we'll always be
But your sweet patience gave us so much more

♥ will you be with me ♥

2009-10-05T06:32:00.003+08:00

i want to know if you'll let me show
how much you mean to me
and show you i can be everything you desire
i'll light your fire
and treat you right
and let you win our fights
i want to be good to you
and i promise to do all that you want me to

so,will you be with me?

♥ willing to wait ♥

2009-10-04T06:21:00.003+08:00

slow down just here me out
theres something i gotta let you know
no need push no need to rush
you know you had me from hello

when it comes to my heart i dont play
cant you see the stop sign
your movin much to fast
love doesnt grow in a day
just get it right the first time
make this feeling last

if your willing to wait
we just take our time
dont you know that its getting late
and i know whats on your mind
i know this feeling is crazy
its mutual
but we dont have to rush something real
if your willing to wait
we can just take our time

cant you see i'm not tryna be
the girl who gets taken for a ride
if you take your time and you will find
theres so much more to me inside
and just say theres no need to delay
your telling me to trust you
you know i want to
but my heart gets so recently break
before we take this very far show me who you really are

♥ weekend love warrior ♥

2009-10-03T00:49:00.001+08:00

Could your relationship use some zing? With packed schedules and little time for ourselves, let alone our partners, it is all too easy to let romance slide. But did you know you can recharge your relationship in just one weekend? All it takes is some quality together time. We’ve mapped out the whole weekend for you, so if you’ve got kids, send them to grandma’s house and recharge your relationship!

Friday
Jump start your romantic weekend with lunch together at an out-of-the-way café where you won’t run into any co-workers. Your secret rendezvous is a prelude for lovely things to come!
After work, meet for drinks at the bar of the fanciest hotel in town. Keep the conversation light -- this night is not for working through the hard stuff. Pretend you are on your third date and flirt like crazy. If you can afford it, spend the night at the hotel. If not, head home for coffee and snuggling. Remember: no serious talk tonight.

Saturday
Wake up early and have an adventure together. Do something active that neither of you have done before to get your hearts pumping -- ice skating, zip lining, a sunrise hot air balloon ride; the possibilities are endless! The point is to experience the thrill of something new, together.
For the next couple of hours, go somewhere quiet where you can talk. It can be a public place, and a picnic in the park would be a lovely backdrop for this next activity. Each take turns talking for a half hour, uninterrupted. The ground rules are as follows: no talking about the other person or your relationship, and no interrupting! When it’s your turn to talk, remember to talk only about yourself -- you cannot respond to anything your partner said. In spending this time completely focuses on each other, you will learn to really hear what your partner is saying, and probably learn quite a bit about each other you didn’t know -- no matter how long you’ve been together.
Saturday evening
This is an event night -- but you’ll be spending it at home. Cook dinner together. Choose something with ingredients you like but a meal you’ve never made before. Again, sharing new experiences is a bonding ritual. Dress for dinner, like you would if you were going out for your anniversary. Linger over your meal, enjoying each other’s company. Leave the dishes for later -- tonight is all about romance! Run a hot bubble bath and soak with your partner surrounded by candles and soft music. Afterwards, slip into some special lingerie and see what happens...

Sunday
Recover from your love hangover with a long morning cuddle -- prolonged physical contact fosters intimacy. Enjoy breakfast in bed and talk about the romantic experiences you’ve had so far during your weekend of love.
Spend the afternoon enjoying luxury window shopping. Test drive that expensive sports car, try on that uber expensive diamond necklace, attend that open house in the super-exclusive neighbourhood you drool over. Remind yourself of the financial goals you want to reach together. As two members of a relationship team, it is each of your responsibilities to support each other’s dreams. Use this exercise to segue into mapping out a plan to achieve those dreams.
By late afternoon, you will probably have to pick the kids up from wherever you stashed them for the weekend. Enjoy a quiet family night, piled on the couch together watching movies and eating popcorn.

♥ A Poem That Is So True ♥

2009-10-02T23:55:00.007+08:00

* never say I LOVE YOU
if you don't really care.

* never talk of feelings
if they aren't really there.

* never hold my hand
if you mean to break my heart.

* never say forever
if you ever plan to part.

* never look into my eyes
if you are telling me a lie.

* never say hello
if you think you'll say goodbye.

* never say that I'm the one
if you dream of more than me.

* never lock up my heart
if you don't have the key.

* never say forever
because forever makes me cry.

♥ Sharing The L O V E ♥

2009-10-01T22:55:00.007+08:00

Love is a miracle that's not found by all ..
Whenever two people fine love in each other, remember ..

♥ ♥ ♥

1 : Love is like a tender and fragrant flower ~ the smallest of things can hurt it. Protect it !

2 : Love is like the sun ~ whenever it shines, it makes you feel warm all over .

3 : Love can last forever or for only a day ~ treasure it and do'n let go !

4 : Love takes lots of work !

5 : Love can make you feel complete .

6 : Love can make you feel weak and make you feel strong .

7 : Love is heavenly glory that we all dream of !

♥ ♥ ♥

So, when you find love, don't let it go !!